Feeling Overwhelmed?

It's the 21st century, everything is quick, quick quick. You are constantly doing things for others or for something to happen. When was the last time you had some time to yourself?

I am an introvert, but being in university and having a part time job force me to be with people. Not to mention doing things for my career like volunteering and being at corporate events. (Like standing in heels was not bad enough, I have to be "fake" and interact.) (this will be expanded in future blogs)

Like taxes, you just have to give in, hold your breathe, and deal with it.

But the secret is to slow it down with your mind. (this sounds like some meditating hippie crap, but stay with me) How I do it?


1. I am an OCD planner

Not ashamed of it at all and actually love that I have the habit.

You start with what time you need to be at work/school/wherever.
In this example, I had to be at Monash at 10.

So you "trace" the time you need before.

I take public transport, which comes with at least a 10-15 minute adjustment (waiting around, walking/running to the stations etc). What I mean by this is if there is an accident of trains are running late, you have to be prepared to find alternatives.

I usually gym for an hour and fifteen minutes, take about 24 minutes to get ready. This time would be added before commuting.

"8.50" is the time I need to be done getting ready. I usually set an alarm 5 minutes early in the bathroom.

Then you "retrace" everything to the time you need to be up to prep/shower/get ready.

2. Write Sh*t Down.

When things feel too overwhelming, I feel like I might pass out. I get palpitations, sweaty palms and feet. It's gross.

Just take a deep breath, clear your mind. And write what is currently happening. Often its just one big task which needs to be dissected into sections.

I usually write a list with the dateline on the side. Some things are happening in a month but you feel like the whole world is shaking because so much is going on.

After you have your timeline, list what needs to be done for each "event". 

Its really simple once you just stop, breath, and plan.

3. Writing a gratitude passage.

With everyone one-upping another, its hard to be grateful for what you have because you want what your peers have. A better job? A more expensive car? They are getting married?

What's wrong with what you have? If they didn't exist, would you be content?

Being grateful for what you have now, changes your mindset to a positive one instead of the sense of lack. When I am in a more grateful mindset I feel satisfied and happy. Which I have not done in the past as I feel like everything is a competition, in fact it was just me that was competing.

4. Cut out toxins

Do you feel better on a healthier diet? Filled of nutritious fruits and vegetables. And feel like sh*t when you're eating leftover pizzas and styrofoam halal snack packs? Do the same to your life.

People who don't make you feel special or worth their time, cut them out. 

If you feel like you have to be someone else when you're around them, cut them out.

Those who don't respect your time or effort whether it's meeting them or the friendship in general, cut them out.

Or just people who irritate the f*ck out of you. 

I understand some friendships have been going on for years but is it really worth it? Does this person add value to your life, or do they degrade it.

You may feel anxious when dealing with "friends" like this because you have to worry about every single detail. What you say, what you wear, the way you react etc.

Just cut them out.

Its going to be a huge transition, but its a good one.

And for those you have to live with (family (roll my eyes)). Ignore the things they say or do to affect you. If you can't move out yet, hang on a little longer, work a little harder and save a little more. I strongly believe that the right opportunity will come your way.

5. Find your escape.

Everyone has that "thing" they do when they are angry/frustrated. Mine is being that as*hole at the gym who slams their weights. Its much frown upon but, after that, I feel like I have taken back my control. I feel empowered because I should be in control of my own feelings. 

Cuss if you need to. Its not rude, its an expression of speech.

X

LiAnn